How Straightforwardness Got Him the Date
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Yesterday I met a guy on Loveawake dating site, who truly impressed me and it was for one simple fact – he was confident and in control. That was it. In fact, his confidence was so compelling that it overrode my normal “Quick! Run!” impulses and kept me talking to him all day long.
And then today, when I found myself smiling after agreeing to going to dinner with said fellow, I thought holy heck – this guy is a genius. You see, I’ve been quite busy coming up with reasons not to go on dates for the past 2 months. Compelling reasons! I’ve told myself that I don’t have time. I should be focusing on me right now. Work is busy. I should be training harder for my April goal, etc, etc… And then this guy comes out of nowhere (with all sorts of things that would normally make me run – younger, travels a ton for work) and gets me to agree to dinner? How did this happen?
I’ll tell you how – he was so gosh darn confident and in control, I didn’t have a chance to run away. And as I thought about it, I couldn’t help but wish that more men would approach me in this manner. So, since I adore all of my wonderful guy readers, I thought I’d give you a play by play on how this went down. This dude may just be a good one for you to pick up a few tips from…
Yesterday I had jury duty and I promise you, it never crossed my mind that I might meet an eligible bachelor in the process. If it had, perhaps I would have washed my hair… but I digress.
So there I was, attempting to get some work done while waiting to be called, when a fairly attractive guy comes and sits down in front of me. I immediately pondered if it was appropriate to hit on a guy at jury duty. The general consensus was that it was and after I caught him looking at me a couple of times, I decided to go for it. I leaned forward and asked him if he knew what time we would get out of there – and that was the last move I had to make.
He took the door I opened for him and started chatting me up. He was right in the middle of asking all the usual questions, (What are you working on? What do you do? How did you get into that? Where did you go to school?) when his name was called and our convo was cut short.
I won’t lie, my initial reaction was to be relieved. In my head, I began reminding myself of all of the many reasons why I shouldn’t be talking to any guys right now. But while I was formulating this list they called my name as well. What are the chances that out of the 500 something jurors there, we were going to be potential jurors on the same trial?? Sigh, off I went.
I took my sweet time arriving at the courtroom, thinking perhaps that would make it challenging for us to continue the chat. Turns out, the nice gentleman was not so easily dissuaded. When I got there, he came right up to me to pick up where we left off. And lo and behold, I found myself enjoying him.
Five minutes later, when they came out and told us they’d be calling us into court soon, he turned to me and asked me for my number. Frankly, I was surprised. We really hadn’t been talking that long, and I have seen so many guys get super awkward when it comes time for the digit exchange. So when he said, “Hey, it looks like they are going to call us in there soon, let me grab your number and maybe we can get together this weekend…” I didn’t even hesitate and just gave him my number.
Two minutes after that they informed us that actually we were going to have an hour and a half for lunch. I immediately thought, oooh awkward, but he just turned to me and asked me if I wanted to go to lunch with him. I quickly said yes before my head had a chance to come up with a million reasons as to why it would be better to eat alone.
The rest of the day, The Juror continued to impress. He suggested the place for our lunch, drove the conversation, and walked the fine line of flirting without creeping me out. I was kinda shocked that a guy two years younger than me could be this good at making a girl feel comfortable. I’ve met 30 year olds with less game! So, when I learned that we would have to come back the next day, I wasn’t all that distraught about it. I was actually kinda looking forward to getting to know this guy a little more.
Sadly, the next morning the young gentleman was dismissed within the first five minutes… leaving me stuck, all alone, waiting to hear my fate. When I did eventually get dismissed I anxiously checked my phone, thinking there’d be a text from him. Nada. I walked all the way to my car. Still nothing. Drove all the way home. Nope. It wasn’t until I’d been home for a bit that I saw the little green light on my phone flashing and thought, nicely done sir. No one likes someone who is too eager.
After we chatted a bit, I asked him how he planned on celebrating his new found freedom, and he responded, “Well that’s obvious. I’m taking you to dinner to celebrate.”
Um, well played… A. Kudos for saying dinner and not a drink and B. Way to be so bold! No asking, no awkward shyness. Just a straight forward, I am taking you to dinner. I liked it and I told him so. He followed it up with, when should I pick you up and I almost jumped up and down. A guy who offers to come pick a girl up?? Those still exist?? It’s a miracle.
So, just like that, I have my first date. Some of you may be reading this and thinking that nothing The Juror did was really all that fancy. To which I would reply, you are darn right. That was the ingeniousness of it. There was no tricks, no game playing, nothing spiffy. Just good, old fashioned confidence and straightforwardness. Yes, it is that easy.
Therefore men, I implore you, when you see a lady you like, just go for it. Like for reals. Ask her out. Be blunt and straightforward and clear. Will it work every time? Nope. But if you go after something openly and obviously, I’d venture to guess that you’ll have a much better chance of getting what you want.
So what do you say? Sound like a deal? Excellent. You won’t be sorry.